Probably! 😊 Of course, we don’t know you, but we are asked this question a lot! Here’s the deal: bodies come in all shapes, sizes, and varieties. And they’re all good. Unfortunately, the media (movies, music, magazines, online stuff) pretends like this isn’t so.
Media often show certain types of bodies and make it seem like there are bodies that matter, and bodies that don’t. But the media is wrong: Every Body Matters! You probably also know that most of the time these bodies are not even real; the images have been digitally changed and people may have spent hours getting their hair and makeup done.
To help you put this into perspective, think about the people in your life that you love and care about. Why do you love and care for them? Is it because they have great abs or gorgeous hair? Nope. Chances are, you love and care about people because they are generous, supportive, interesting, funny, et cetera. So try and remember to be as nice to yourself as you are to the people you care about. It can be really tough to learn to love your body, but it is so important!
One more thing: Sometimes people compare their bodies or sex life to what they’ve seen in porn. Porn is NOT the real world! A lot of porn is about creating fantasy, and the people in it are acting. Since porn is a performance, we don’t recommend using it as a tool for understanding bodies or sex. Now let’s talk about what “normal” means when it comes to sexual health.
At the Annex, people will often ask us questions like:
- Is it normal to have one breast slightly larger than the other? (Yep, that’s normal.)
- Is my penis the right size? (Yep, that’s normal. And there is no “right” size.)
- Is this what my vulva is supposed to look like? (Yep, that’s normal.)
Are you seeing a trend here? A lot of people’s body concerns are totally normal; it’s just that they haven’t seen images that look the same way they do.
However, maybe you have a sexual health question like:
- The discharge from my vagina smells different. Is this normal?
- It hurts when I have sex. Is this normal?
- I noticed a tiny bump on my penis or vulva/vagina. Is this normal?
- The person I’m dating gets super jealous and angry when I talk to other people. Is this normal?
Please call us for these kinds of questions! Someone on our team would be happy to talk to you about your concerns. We are experts in sexual health and get asked these questions all of the time.
We’ll probably want you to make an appointment to visit us and talk more about your question. Remember: you do not need anyone’s permission to receive our services or talk with our staff, and all of our services are confidential, which means your information will be kept private and will not be shared with others. You can call as at 763.533.1316 to schedule your appointment.